Michael and I are pretty passionate about marriages staying together. We love to see thriving, awesome marriages and are heart-broken when a marriage of dear friends ends. Michael and I have made a commitment to keep fighting for a strong and healthy marriage. Yes, it is a fight. Even if we aren’t fighting (for our marriage) it is easy to become comfortable and quit putting forth the extra effort for one another. It is easy to forget to buy each other flowers or write each other a card or a love note. It is easy to forget to appreciate each other and SAY so. So even though Michael and I don’t usually fight (with one another), sometimes it is easy to forget to fight for romance!
One of the ways Michael and I fight for our marriage is by reading! We are soooo well aware that there are those who know so much more than we do about marriage. Many of them have shared their wisdom in books. Simply put, these books have been life changing to us.
I have been reading The 5 Love languages by Gary Chapman. Let me tell you! It is rocking my world. Michael read this book before we were even married. He is much more of a reader than I am. I am reading the exact copy that he read and it is awesome to see where he has underlined key points in the book. The book is well worn and loved on which makes it all the more special to me.
Gary Chapman writes that there are 5 basic love languages. Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Gifts, Physical Touch, and Acts of Service. He also states in his book that there is a primary love language that you speak and a primary love language that your spouse speaks. If I want to show Michael that I really love him in a way that he most enjoys then I need to know his love language and the same goes for me and my love language.
There is an exam in the back of the book. I jumped ahead and took it this morning. I found out that my love language is Words of Affirmation. I love, love, LOVE to hear those sweet words of encouragement, gratitude, or praise. Its kind of like crack to me. It is what drives me in my photography as well. I desire for someone to tell me that I look super smoking in my jeans or I that I have done a good job with my photography. 😉 It means more to me than a physical gift! Michael’s love language is Physical Touch. He is forever kissing me in public, giving me huge hugs, or slapping me on the butt. (Yes, in public too.) 😛
Even though our love languages are Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch it does not limit us to just doing those things for each other. I was away all weekend with my girl buds in Cincinnati. When I got home I saw this laying on my side of the bed.
Michael had gone to his nephew’s birthday party over the weekend and brought me home a bunny balloon animal. Not an expensive piece of jewelry or a designer pair of shoes but a balloon animal. I adored it but I loved the words on it more. I <3 U Bunny. His pet name for me is "Bunny." He actually may kill me for posting that in this blog but I don't care. I have the sweetest husband in the world. He shows it often in the small things he does for me.
We certainly do not have it all figured out. We still have soooo much to learn. When we need advice we seek the wisdom of other people who are wiser than we are. There are plenty of them in our lives and those who have written amazing books such as this one.
It is hard to believe we have been married for 3 and a 1/2 years now! Here is a picture of us all grinning and stuff on our wedding day.
We want to know your love language. You can take the test by clicking on the photo below. If you haven’t read the book, GO! Go now and buy it or borrow it. You won’t regret it.
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